Let’s talk about friendships! I’m dead smack in the middle of watching season 2 of “She’s Gotta Have It” and I can’t help but be moved to talk about this scene. FYI if you haven’t seen it I suggest you not continue to read this blog. I may spoil it for you just a tad bit.
Nola and Chloe have been best friends for years and yet they’ve had this uneasiness all along the way. Nola is a free spirit and Chloe is your high siddy standard having gal. Now, there is nothing wrong with that as both are separate individuals that bring so much to the table. I can see how they’ve been friends for so long. Nola keeps Chloe down to earth and Chloe helps keep Nola focused.
What happens when they uneasiness becomes to much to bare? What happens when you’ve let time go by without clearing the air? What happens is you break. The break can either be for the good or the bad.
In this scene their dear friend Shameeka senses the uneasiness and forces them to talk it out. This is where my heart was moved. It was moved because all to often I’ve been in friendships where something happens and neither parties clear the air. The air may remain tense and go on longer than neccessary. The air may never clear and sometimes the friendship fades away. I find myself to be much like the lovely Nola Darling carefree and heartfelt. I sometimes choose to not confront to lessen the drama or tension. Is it helpful probably not. What I admire about this scene is that Shameeka was the friend that said no lets squash this. Having an outside source to help mend the friendship was neccessary for them.
Nola and Chloe had to come face to face with their issues and lay it all on the table. It’s important to lay issues out to get to the core and see wether it’s worth saving or letting go. In this case Nola valued their friendship and made a stance to either choose being friends or business partners. Nola recognized that doing both was causing the issue. Nola boldy choose to salvage their friendship and Chloe reluctantly agreed. Through Chloe’s tears and vulnerability she saw how it was neccessary.
This scene is something I wish could have happened in my life. I’ve let some friendships fade away to due to unspoken resolve. I also know it takes two but deep in my heart I alway’s think what could I have done to save this friendship? One thing I’ve come to realize in my few years of life is that everything has it’s season. That comforts me in knowing in that season of friendship I loved wholeheartdly and meant well for my friends. I’ve learned to love from a distance even when it hurts.
Cheers to this scene showing us that friendships can mend and confrontation isn’t always messy but rewarding.
Have you ever gone through a rocky place with a friend? If so what did you do? Are you still friends today? Chime in on the comments I’d love to hear your take.
My best friend and I went through a squabble about 4 years ago and didn’t talk the way we normally did for about 7-8 months!! It was terrible but neither of us wanted to be forthright about our feelings. Thankfully after a nudge from another close friend of ours, we were able to talk everything out. It was hard. Really really really really hard but it was necessary and made our friendship so much stronger!
Narcisa Maura says
That’s awesome, it’s good to have that extra nudge to bring reconciliation 🙌🏾